Every person experiences loss and grief in their own unique way. No two people will go through this process exactly the same.
When our daughter passed in 2000, my family was thrown into disarray. Somehow, my husband and I learned very quickly just small communication tools that allowed us to help each other through it. You would often hear in our house "I'm just having a moment", which meant a tough moment missing her but that we didn't want to talk about it. We use this even today.
Our struggle with this is not over. The loss of a child is different from any other loss. There are similarities in the grieving process but this kind of loss stays with you no matter what you do. I think about her at every birthday, at every special occasion, close to the date we lost her, and still on random days as well.
This tragedy has affected every aspect of our lives.
The stories I share below are shared because I needed to write them out. They are shared with the hope that someone else experiencing a loss might find comfort at least in that they are not alone and that whatever they are experiencing it is normal for them.
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The Day We Became Broken -
When our daughter passed in 2000, my family was thrown into disarray. Somehow, my husband and I learned very quickly just small communication tools that allowed us to help each other through it. You would often hear in our house "I'm just having a moment", which meant a tough moment missing her but that we didn't want to talk about it. We use this even today.
Our struggle with this is not over. The loss of a child is different from any other loss. There are similarities in the grieving process but this kind of loss stays with you no matter what you do. I think about her at every birthday, at every special occasion, close to the date we lost her, and still on random days as well.
This tragedy has affected every aspect of our lives.
The stories I share below are shared because I needed to write them out. They are shared with the hope that someone else experiencing a loss might find comfort at least in that they are not alone and that whatever they are experiencing it is normal for them.
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The Day We Became Broken -
For the remainder of this article please click HERESuddenly my youngest son came bursting through the front door. The look on his face is one that still turns my stomach and makes me want to cry. Worse yet were the immediate words that came out of this 7 year old child’s mouth, “Mommma! Daddy! Ashley and I tried to walk to the store by ourselves and she got hit by a car and I think she’s dead.” Even as I sit here and type this I am sick in my stomach and cannot help but cry.
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________________________________________________________My daughter was 8 years old when she was taken from us. Just 8 birthday celebrations into her life before it was over.
She was taken 6 months before her 9th birthday. Exactly halfway through her 8th year.I hadn’t moved on to good days and bad days yet when her birthday rolled around. I was still at good moments and bad moments, but time doesn’t wait for you to grieve. Time stops for no one, and before we knew it her birthday was upon us.To read the remainder of this article click here.
___________________________________________________________Tonight, My husband, myself, and our youngest son (Johnny), sat down to discuss our rememberings of the events of that day. We each had small variances. Each of us admitted that we blame only ourselves and shared the reasons why.To read the rest of this article click here.
You’d be 20 this year. Questions fly through my mind like a whirlwind of pain and confusion. What would you be like? What would your ....
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The Hardest Question
The "hardest question" came to me when the mother was away from people who knew what had happened and she met someone that struck up a conversation with her. The discussion turned to children, as it often does, and the other person asked her.....___________________________________________________________
The Loss of a Child – A Radio Interview with Tracy Seekins
